Dear 34- year-old-me,
Last week I wrote to my 14-year-old me to kind of look back at the past 10 years and to see how my life has changed and how my perception and understanding has changed. So I figured I would look at the next 10 years to you know kinda think about my hopes and dreams for the future.
Well, considering that I am currently looking at jobs and have severe anxiety around the issue, I am hoping that this worked out and that you are in a job that you like and that lets you do something that you like. Tell me, which application worked out in the end? I am really just hoping we do something that we are passionate about and are not stuck in a job that we hate.
I hope you travelled a bit more. Yes, I like what we did so far and we have made it to some cool place, but we have been very focused on that job thing and all of the travelling we have done has been to achieve that kind of goal. Like we have not been on a holiday since 2013. Like what even is that. But maybe our job lets us travel a bit too that would be cool.
However, seeing how it is currently going I almost don’t expect you to have it all figured out because who really has it all figured out? I mean look at our parents, they are still trying to figure it all out. But I do hope that you are more settled than I am now. Well yes, to an extend that comes with the job, but also with your living arrangements because this moving every year thing ain’t fun. I hope you have a nice place, I am not expecting you to own it because that probably won’t be a thing. I hope it is nice though. And maybe we are lucky enough to live close to the girls. Maybe we finally managed to all live in proximity to each other. I hope you still have your obsession with fairy lights and you have pictures of people you care about around, just maybe in frames now instead of just stuck on a wall with blu tack. I hope you still appreciate all the moments on the pictures because they show things you can be proud of, even if you don’t talk to all the people in the pictures half as much as you would like to. This is a silly thing but I hope you have a nice armchair and plenty of bookshelves and actually take your time to sit in that armchair with a book and a blanket on weekends and nights to relax because that is something I am looking forward to and really want you to do.
I am hoping you are still close with people you love and you are not giving up on them like I have done before. Stick around the people that make you a better person and that make you feel good about yourself. Having friends and being close to them is so important, because you have seen what happened after your parents split. I am just going to put it out here now, if a certain group of friends and you are not as close anymore as we are now, I will be very, very mad with you!
I hope you fell in love. I hope you actually trusted someone enough to get to know you enough to build a nice and solid relationship on it. Going by how much I don’t want it to happen. That person is probably German, but hey everyone has their flaws right. On the Brightside that would mean that he could raise your children in German and you could be the one to teach them English to raise them bilingual and won’t have to be the one speaking in German to them. On that topic, I am kind of hoping you have one child already. Right now, I am hoping to have multiple children and to adopt at least one. I am hoping you are being a good mother and are a good example for your children. I am hoping you are making it work with your partner and you are having family time together. I am also hoping you finally got a dog and get to experience having a pet for the first time in your life.
I am hoping you remain confident and gain a bit of fearlessness and move out of your comfort-zone a little more than I am doing right now. I am hoping you are still kind and friendly and try to make people feel safe and happy to talk to you. I am hoping you are still open-minded and care a lot about others because it is a driving force behind a lot of your motivation. I am hoping you are still acknowledging your ambition and I am hoping you are working towards satisfying that because ambition is definitely not a bad thing! I am hoping you still love music and gigs and take your time to enjoy those. Ngl, I am kind of hoping you are now mainly using lush products, which is a silly thing to say but I am honestly buzzing for the moment I can do that.
I am hoping you are still thinking about doing a PhD at some point because while you are currently very fed up with academics, you do like it and you have so many ideas for it that it would be amazing.
I am kind of hoping you will have finished writing a book. Again you have so many ideas and you start stories but you never finish them. You don’t need to do anything with that book but at least finish writing it, however bad it is.
Most of all, I am hoping that you are happy with where you are at with life at the moment. I am hoping you are healthy and have healthy relationships and that you are working for something that makes you happy and proud.
I love you and cannot wait to see who and how we are when I turn 34.
Katie